Change – why are some of us better at it than others?

12 Jan 2021

Published in: Member News

How many times have you said the phrase “I’m not good with change”?

What makes us think that we’re not? Is it because, compared to others, we appear to find change harder to adjust to? Or, is it that we believe we don’t like change because that’s what everyone has always told us?

Whatever the reason, this may help to explain it.

The ‘Change Curve’ is something that has been shared several times since last March as we have all had to adjust to change in our lives. I wanted to reshare it with you but rather than explaining its purpose and how it works, I wanted to give you some questions you could ask yourself when you recognise what stage you are in to help you to move towards integration.

You might even be able to use these questions to help others through their Change Curve.


  • What am I gaining by believing this not to be true?
  • Who can I speak to help me to process what is happening?


  • What in this situation is in my control?
  • What emotion would be serving me better at this time?


  • What one thing can I do today that will give some energy?
  • On a scale of 1-10 how big an obstacle is this change for me?
  • What could I do to reduce that? How would things feel if I had the belief that things were better?


  • What is possible?
  • What could I achieve if I took a fresh approach to this?


  • What are the next steps to making this work for me?
  • What might stop me? How can I overcome that?

You might find you get stuck at a particular stage for some time, and that’s ok, we all respond differently, some us may even have more than one change curve happening at the same time.

We all know that the past 9 months have been tough but if we can understand why we might be feeling how we are about things, we stand a better chance of turning what feels overwhelming into something more manageable.

We’re here to help too, so if you are finding yourself getting stuck and it is affecting how you run your business, we have a number of free resources and solutions that can help you – all you need to do is ask!

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Submitted by Kerry from ActionCOACH Black Country
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